Author Archives: sydned

Should Essentials’ staff choreograph a Water Ballet?

Just as an excuse to get some of these adorable swim caps? I can just see it. Retro swimsuits and an Esther Williams’ routine. Choose from multi-color floral or fuschia.

Bargain Bonanza-The adventure continues

In which our heroines debate the best means of advertising Essentials’ BIG SALE. (To see parts 1 and 2, visit the Essentials’ Facebook page please.)

Mina Samuels helps us Run Like Girls

Occasionally, I share a slice of our lives outside the store. Today, something I should probably put in the category of shameless self-promotion.

Last year, I was interviewed by the lovely Mina Samuels for her book, Run Like a Girl.

Part locker-room confidential, inspiring manifesto, and personal memoir, this book shows us through stories how the confidence women build by participating in sports—whether it’s running or rock climbing, swimming or yoga—can transform our lives in profound ways. (via)

Yesterday, I was lucky enough to travel to New York for a taping for the Today Show, in support of the book.

On a panel with some incredible women, it was a thrill to hear stories of strong women finding themselves through sports, something I have been lucky enough to experience since learning to swim at 26 years old, 14 years ago.

Great thanks to Mina and all the women who participated. It was an inspiring day, and I look forward to seeing all of us on the Today Show when the piece airs. (And of course, I’ll be sure to let you all know!)

Grandma always beat me at Rummy

Set of 9 Vintage Flower Floral Playing Cards Swap

And maybe it’s because of remembering her that I want these Vintage Floral Playing Cards. Of course, I’d like them even more if they were fabric, and I could use them for crafting. But these bits of vintage ephemera would certainly do for some card-making.

Set of 9 Vintage Flower Floral Playing Cards Swap

The DIY Doily Dish for someone WAAAYYY more talented than I.

According to this DIY Doily Dish Tutorial at Sodapop Design, anyone should be able to do this. HA!

In my dreams. Any of you crafty enough to try this?And if you do, let’s just say I WANT, WANT, WANT!

No increased problems in Northampton? I respectfully disagree.

Today’s Daily Hampshire Gazette contained an article regarding the recent break-in at A Child’s Garden. In it, owner Kate Glynn discussed the sense of violation that came with the recent activities, and writer James Lowe connected it to a growing sense of discomfort and anxiety on the part of downtown retailers.

Then, the article quoted Captain Savino of the Northampton Police. And Captain Savino? With all due respect, I disagree.

Here is what Captain Savino had to say: “Savino said there is no evidence of an increase in downtown disturbances or instances in which officers place individuals in protective custody because of intoxication.”

Readers, as you may know from reading my posts earlier this week, many of us who work in downtown Northampton believe the situation facing us is becoming untenable and that it IS worsening. Too often, our employees and customers are harassed, made to feel unsafe and unwelcome, and with increasing frequency, are reluctant to spend time in Northampton.

In my letter to City Councilors a few days ago, I wrote about walking back from lunch at The Roost (which was great, by the way). A man approached my friend and I, so intoxicated he was barely able to stand, weaving his way and almost falling into us while asking us for money.

As instructed, I called the Police immediately. And let me say, I have generally found the police to be responsive, they come when we call, and they do what they can. (Individual officers have also expressed their own frustrations at feeling that their hands are tied.)

An hour later, I left my office and saw the same man, now sitting in front of Fitzwilly’s, almost falling over as he sat there. I called again and was told that the police had spoken with him and that was it.

Now I ask, Why was that man not placed in custody for public intoxication? What are the rules governing that because I see this all the time, every day. Where is the line? And who determines it? Is the lack of increase really an issue of lack of additional arrests?

Let me also share part of the discussion I had during the Downtown Business Community meeting.

During the meeting, I detailed an interaction I had on the way there, walking up Main Street toward Thornes.

I was approached for money by two individuals who asked me for money. I refused with a simple, authoritative “No.”

Here’s the shouted reply I got in response: “If you’re black in this town, they arrest you, but if you are gay, they throw you an engagement party.”

Here is what Captain Savino asked me during the meeting, “Why did you respond to them?”

And here was my answer.

As a woman, I am taught that the best means for me to defend myself, to stake out my place is with my voice. What’s the first lesson of any self-defense class? We are taught to say “NO!”
And that’s what I did.

As another retailer said, neither we nor our customers should have to feel that we must walk as ghosts through our own town, not making eye contact, hoping that people will not say anything to us, and scurrying from place to place in fear.

Let me say a few more things. Since my letters to the City Council on Tuesday, I have been contacted by any number of people. Suzanne Beck, head of the Northampton Chamber of Commerce, stopped by the store. City Councilor Angela Plassman emailed me that night expressing her willingness to sit down and talk, and to problem-solve around this issue. City Councilor David J. Narkewicz also came to the store to talk with me. And I have received any number of emails in support. I appreciate the support and encourage more feedback.

Last night, I also spoke with Community and Economic Development Director Teri Anderson. During our lengthy conversation, she informed me that the city was trying to set up a meeting with the BID, the Chamber of Commerce, and the Northampton Police to discuss this issue. This meeting was discussed last summer, but nearly 8 months later, still has not been arranged.

In addition, I was informed that this would not be an open meeting and the BID and Chamber would represent downtown business. City retailers like me would not be permitted to attend.

While I applaud some of the work done by these groups, they do not speak for me. When is the forum that will allow the rest of us to speak? When will my employees be able to talk about their discomfort waiting at the bus stop after work each night? When will we be able to bring new and fresh ideas to the table?

I also encourage readers to look at the BID Downtown Northampton Survey Results in which many respondents wrote about their discomfort downtown, and their request that a solution be found, sooner rather than later.

Now, it’s time for action. Please, please email, call, write to the Northampton City Council. Tell them that you want to see change in OUR downtown Northampton, before it’s too late.

Here is a List of Northampton City Councilors. Please use it. Send your ideas, your creativity, your civic pride. We are a city of creative and vibrant individuals–let’s put that energy to good use.

Want to read the Gazette article for yourself? Here it is:

Retailers again cite concerns for downtown Northampton businesses

Photo: Retailers again cite unfriendly climate downtown 

CAROL LOLLIS
Kate Glynn, owner of A Child’s Garden in downtown Northampton, stands with her boarded-up door. The business was broken into Thursday morning.

NORTHAMPTON – The thief got in by breaking a glass pane, and made off with about $7 worth of change from the cash register.

Even though it wasn’t a big loss for the business, the Thursday morning break-in was a blow to Kate Glynn, owner of A Child’s Garden.

“It’s really violating,” Glynn said. “This is somewhere that’s supposed to be safe. It’s a family-oriented store.”

The 204 Main St. toy and baby supply shop reopened Friday with a piece of plywood covering the front door. Glynn said she’s thinking about installing security cameras.

For Glynn, the incident was further proof there’s something wrong downtown. She said business owners have been swapping stories for years about thefts, loiterers fighting and harassing customers, even drinking alcohol or using drugs on the sidewalk in broad daylight.

Photo: Retailers again cite unfriendly climate downtown

CAROL LOLLIS
Kate Glynn, owner of A Child’s Garden in downtown Northampton, stands where her cash register used to be — before the shop was broken into Thursday.

A citywide discussion of the same issues foundered two years ago, but now some in the downtown business community say their concerns are again coming to a head.

“There is a strong cause for concern out there that we need to go back to that conversation,” said Dan Yacuzzo, executive director of the Northampton Business Improvement District.

He said the mayor’s office is planning to gather a group downtown to discuss possible solutions.

One path explored years ago could enter the discussion again. In 2008, city leaders proposed an ordinance that would limit where and how panhandlers could ask for money. Officials dropped that proposal in early 2009 after intense criticism from some who felt it was an effort to gentrify the downtown and force out the disenfranchised.

Yacuzzo said he still thinks rules governing where panhandlers can solicit money – certain distances away from ATMs, for example – are a good idea.

Northampton police Capt. Scott Savino, who met recently with members of the Greater Northampton Chamber of Commerce, said the Police Department would not support a panhandling ordinance this time around.

Savino said he told the Chamber that officers can intervene when people on the street act aggressively toward shoppers, block sidewalks or appear to be engaged in drug activity.

“The message that we gave to them is that if you see that activity, you need to call,” he said.

Savino said there is no evidence of an increase in downtown disturbances or instances in which officers place individuals in protective custody because of intoxication.

Regardless of whether such incidents are becoming more frequent, business owners say they’re still cause for concern.

In letters to Mayor Clare Higgins, Essentials owner Sydne Didier describes several incidents in which she, employees or customers were harangued by loiterers or saw drug transactions outside her jewelry and gift shop at 88 Main St.

“With businesses like mine still suffering from the economic downturn, we cannot afford to lose further business,” Didier wrote. “Northampton, a place I have loved, has developed a reputation as a place that is both unfriendly and unsafe.”

The letters are posted on Didier’s blog, lamotif.com.

“We’re condoning that behavior if we turn a blind eye to it,” Yacuzzo said. “I think we need to create less tolerance for that. … There may be some pushback, but it should not deter us from protecting something that we cherish.”

There is no indication that the person who broke in to A Child’s Garden was a panhandler or street person. Police have no suspects in that theft.

Calling on the Northampton City Council – The Time Is Now

Hello Again Essentials’ fans,

This morning I was alarmed to learn of the break-in at another local small business, A Child’s Garden. In response, I have written this letter to the members of the Northampton City Council in the hopes of action.

Again, I call on all of us to share our ideas, to work toward positive change, and to keep Northampton safe for all. Thank you all for reading.

Sydne

3 March 2011

Dear Members of the Northampton City Council,

I write to you today as the owner of Essentials, a retail storefront located on Main Street.

This morning I woke to the news that A Child’s Garden had been robbed. Kate Glynn, the owner, and I have long talked about the ways downtown Northampton has been changing, and our frustrations with the new landscape. In the wake of this latest violation of property and emotional security, I cannot be silent.

For too long, downtown businesses have suffered a climate that increasingly threatens our businesses. Perhaps more important, I believe the permissive environment with regard to drugs and alcohol abuse threatens the very physical security of my employees, a situation which is entirely untenable and which must not be permitted to continue.

I am enclosing some materials that I believe warrant your attention. Specifically, an editorial piece I have written for our store blog, lamotif.com, and two letters I have written to Mayor Clare Higgins regarding the street situation confronting those of us trying to work, live in, and enjoy downtown Northampton.

To date, I have not received any reply to these letters, despite my request that the Mayor meet with me to problem-solve around these issues.

It is my sincere hope that we will be able to come together as a downtown community and advocate for a solution to a problem that is increasingly affecting all of our businesses. I look forward to being a part of that process and I hope that the City Council will participate.

I would like to suggest that the City Council meet with members of the Downtown Business Community, concerned Northampton residents, and members of the police force to begin discussion around this issue. As I say in my letter and blog post, the time is now. We can wait no longer.

I look forward to your responses and hope to hear from you soon.

Respectfully,

Sydne Didier

Owner, Essentials

Northampton Needs Our Ideas, Part 2

Here is the second letter I wrote to Mayor Clare Higgins regarding the issues I see facing downtown Northampton. (To see Part 1 of this post, visit Northampton Needs Our Ideas, Part 1.)

Again, I invite you to share your ideas with the local downtown businesses you love. Let’s work together to make positive change in our town!

9 February 2011

Mayor’s Office-Room 12

City of Northampton

210 Main Street

Northampton, MA 01060

Dear Mayor Higgins,

Nearly seven months ago, I sent you a letter, dated July 16, 2010, penned in desperation. I wrote as a business owner, a valley resident, a mother, and a staunch advocate of locally-owned business.

In the seven months since I wrote that letter, which, on July 27th, I confirmed that you did indeed receive, I have heard nothing. (I have enclosed a copy of the original letter here.)

In my first letter, I detailed the numerous issues that face me as a business owner in downtown Northampton, and in the seven months since then, things have only gotten worse.

Let me give you a few examples.

This past Friday the 4th of February, one of my employees was unable to remove her car from the delivery door we have in our Kirkland Avenue entrance because, as she was told by the police, it was now a part of a crime scene. All of my employees immediately felt unsafe because the police were unable to tell them what had happened. In addition, the employee who could not move her car was forced to walk home in the dark, icy sidewalks and all. When I called the police on Monday, hoping for some information regarding the incident, I was informed that someone who considered himself to be living in the alley had, inebriated, fallen down and was now in the hospital. It remains unclear whether there was an act of violence involved as well but now, I require that my employees only go to the alley in pairs.

This past Monday, I drove to work early, glanced to my right while driving under the Market Street overpass, and there were 5 men, already intoxicated and some having seemingly passed out. This was the same place several of my employees have to walk under to come to work. These are the same men who beg for spare change in front of my store. One of the men I also recognized from a September incident when he passed out on the bench in front of Sweeties, requiring yet another call to the Northampton Police non-emergency number.

This morning, I went to get my hair cut. It was a lovely way to start my day, until I left the salon and listened as two men in front of Starbucks screamed expletives at one another, one using the “N” word repeatedly. As I passed, one of them turned to me and yelled, “Can you believe this ‘N…?” Did this make me feel like strolling the street? Doing a little casual shopping? Absolutely not. Instead, I put my head down, walked straight to my store, ignoring the stores along the way and trying not to make eye contact with the other transients hanging out along my path.

There are many more examples I can provide as I keep a comprehensive log of each event. There was the man who threw a vodka bottle at one of my employees and then began vomiting profusely in the very area we use for product deliveries.

There was the man stretched out in the alley as my associate and I juggled cars and boxes of product we needed to move. It was late in the afternoon and the man, who was quite inebriated, had been there for several hours already, since my employee had arrived at noon. He refused to move as we attempted to conduct our business, and then yelled at us for disturbing him, asking if we were “leaving or parking or what??” His tone was aggressive, and I insisted that my employee not remain in the alley alone.

With businesses like mine still suffering from the economic downturn, we cannot afford to lose further customers. Northampton, a place I have loved, has developed a reputation as a place that is both unfriendly and unsafe.

Last weekend, my mother, who lives in New York, was visiting and came to Northampton to get her hair cut at Salon 241. What she said upon returning to my home truly alarmed me. “Syd, if you didn’t have a store in Northampton, I wouldn’t go there. It’s just too gross.” This from a woman who has spent her entire life navigating an infinitely more complicated city!

I congratulate the BID on their efforts to bring more people to downtown, the upcoming Ice Art Festival for example. Until these other issues are resolved, however, downtown retailers face an uphill battle and we will lose more and more, both as businesses and as a city.

In my initial letter, I proposed that we meet, and that there be a way for us to think through and process how to solve these issues. It is now clear to me that this is not something you are interested in. What then, would you propose that shop owners do? I am at a loss, and at a point where the damage to my business could be irreparable.

I do hope that you will choose to respond to this letter.

Sincerely,

Sydne J. Didier

Owner, Essentials

Northampton Needs Our Ideas, Part 1

Over the past several months, I’ve spent some time writing about the challenges facing small, independent retailers. And it’s time for me to do so again, with an issue facing the town of Northampton where my store is located.

Let me start by saying a few things. As an employer, my primary focus is the health, safety, and well-being of my employees. It’s not the money or the stuff–it’s the people.

Increasingly, I feel that my ability to ensure the safety and security of my staff is threatened.

The issue is this: As a town with a reputation for acceptance and personal freedoms, we attract a diverse crowd. That’s great. It’s why we live here, why we chose to live here, and why we love it.

Except for one thing–the increasingly presence of drug and criminal activities on our streets. It’s something we grapple with every day and to be honest, feel torn about.

Here’s why: As a resident of the Pioneer Valley, a mother, a wife, and a business owner, I respect the right to free speech, to free assembly, and for people to make their individual choices. Now, however, we are at a point where people’s choices are interfering with my ability to run my business and to ensure that my employees can come to work safely, have a secure work environment, and return home safely when work is done.

Let me tell you about a few incidents in the last two weeks. In that time, including today, my staff and I have called the Northampton Police at least 3 times, the latest being today when a friend and I witnessed a man virtually unable to walk down the sidewalk, intoxicated, blocking pedestrian access, and requesting money from passersby.

This past Friday night, my store manager called when two of my staff were verbally assaulted by a man we have called about several times in the past. (This same man once asked one of my staff if he could sell her bike for drug money, then share the crack with her. What an offer!)

I called one weekday, on the way to the parking garage, as two men drank Vodka outside of Herrell’s Ice Cream, then threw their empty bottles and cigarette packs into the street. 2:30 in the afternoon, outside an ice cream shop where as a parent, I could imagine bringing my son for an after school treat. Needless to say, it didn’t make ice cream seem desirable.

These are just a few of the episodes we have encountered, in just the past two weeks, and frankly, these are on the tamer side relative to some we have witnessed.

Last night, I attended a meeting of the Downtown Business Community to meet with police and to hear what our options are. On my way there, a couple approached me to ask for money and when I refused, with a simple no, yelled at me the following, “Oh, if you’re black in this town they arrest you, but if you’re gay, they throw you an engagement party.” And increasingly, I hear this kind of talk. Talk that is homophobic, or racist, or offensive in another way.

I shook it off, walked upstairs to my meeting and hoped to hear about my options. And do you know what I learned? We have none right now.

Because of the very important right for people to be on the street, to speak their minds, and to follow their own path, there are no real options. And again-let me repeat-these are rights I value and respect.

And at this point, however, I’m simply at a loss about how to handle it and how best to help our town. And so, I come to you, Essentials’ friends and family. Let’s think creatively about how to solve these problems and take back our streets from these behaviors.

I’ve tried some things and I want to share two letters with you, each penned to Mayor Clare Higgins over the course of the last 7 months. To date, there has been no response to these letters, despite my call for a meeting with her.

If you feel that these issues warrant our attention as a community, and that we have to determine a solution that benefits all of us, I encourage you to write to the City Council, write to the Mayor, and to share your ideas with me and the other business owners in town. Is there a creative way we can address this problem? It’s past time which means the time is now.

Here is the first letter I sent to the Mayor last summer.

16 July 2010

Mayor’s Office-Room 12

City of Northampton

210 Main Street

Northampton, MA 01060

Dear Mayor Higgins,

I write to you today as a business owner in Northampton, having owned Essentials, on Main Street, for the past six years. In my opinion, local independent retailers are the backbone of what makes this town vibrant, alive, and thriving.

I am writing out of exasperation and frustration at what I see as a worsening of issues with drug and criminal activity on the streets of Northampton. It is clear that as a town, we face economic times that require tough choices. That being said, a lack of resources cannot be blamed for letting our town become a place that feels uninviting, and potentially even a threatening place to be.

More and more, I hear customers talk about how they don’t feel comfortable walking the streets of Northampton. They are tired of being accosted and feeling threatened. And I admit-I can’t blame them.

In the last month, we have had a drunken man in the store with a lit cigarette, who became belligerent when asked to leave. I have witnessed yet another drug transaction in the Kirkland Avenue alley, and the participants were unmoved when I shouted to them “I can actually see what you are doing!” We have had to ask numerous people to vacate the front of the store as they impeded access to our front door, smoking in our doorway, discussing drug-related activities. And we have witnessed the “injured vet” in front of CVS literally take shifts with two other men, pooling money with one another as they take breaks from their station to leave the scene and buy drugs. We have also witnessed numerous fist-fights, and as I write this line, one of my staff has come to tell me of another police visit outside the store because of a violent, inebriated man outside.

Two days ago, I left my store to hear a man outside of CVS swearing and shouting expletives as he discussed his latest arrest for wielding a knife. I turned to ask him to please be aware of his language as there were families and children walking down the street, to be faced with another torrent of expletives, now directed at me.

We have watched people pass out in front of the store. We have cleaned, and cleaned, and cleaned.

Many of my employees walk either to work, or home at night, on a path that takes them under the bridge on Main Street. They feel threatened by and uncomfortable with the men, frequently in an altered state, who sit there and comment to and about them. I cannot stomach a situation where my staff do not feel safe coming to work, and sometimes fear who might actually come in to the store.

We call police non-emergency on a regular basis. I feel that too high a percentage of my time at work is now being spent on crisis management, dealing with situations like those I have described above, and taking me away from the work I need to do. I cannot “police” the public way, Kirkland Avenue, behind my store, and yet increasingly, feel that this is something I have to do because the activities there directly impact my business. I have a freight door delivery in the back and when my staff needs to go back there, they feel nervous and uncomfortable, often because of the public drunkenness we see back there.

My store manager, Colette Katsikas, who has been with the store for 13-years, dislikes going to her car at night because of the number of men urinating in the Kirkland Avenue alley, leaving alcohol containers—which my staff then has to clean up–, and loitering. She talks to me about how she avoids walking up the street, regardless of the time of day, because she no longer feels safe in a town that is her home. Ms. Katsikas also feels that with regard to inappropriate and unsafe behavior on the street, she does not have a voice because she fears the repercussions of speaking out, and “doesn’t want to make them angry.”

In my opinion, the more customers feel uncomfortable and avoid shopping and visiting here, the greater the economic impact on my business and others. Stores like mine have already been weathering an untenable economic situation, now made worse by the current “feeling” on the street.

To be completely honest, there are many times where even as business owner, I avoid downtown shopping and avoid bringing my son to downtown because I can’t handle the hassle anymore, and because there are certain things I just don’t want my 9-year-old to have to see. It is exhausting. If I am feeling that way, how can we legitimately expect that customers will be inclined to visit us when there are other options for them?

As a staff, we respect the right of people to congregate in town, and yet, when does this behavior impede our right to exist peacefully in our own town?

Town officials need to make clear that there will be zero tolerance in this town for behavior of this kind. Northampton needs to remain a safe place for ALL of its residents and visitors, but increasingly does not feel that way for me and the women who work for me.

I would appreciate the opportunity to discuss this with your further and welcome the opportunity for brainstorming solutions to help the situation.

Thank you for your time, and I look forward to hearing from you.

Respectfully,

Sydne J. Didier

Owner, Essentials

To view Part 2 of this post, please visit Northampton Needs Our Ideas, Part 2.

Vacation fantasies, courtesy of Essentials

Like anyone else sick of winter, we’ve got the travel bug right now. It seemed fitting that the latest store window showcase our wanderlust, and some of our new favorite products from Zero Per Zero.

We can’t send you on vacation, but at least we can get you a cool map of someplace you’re longing to go. London, Seoul, Osaka, Tokyo, NYC, and more. (I have the Seoul and Osaka maps up in my house and I love them.)